Note: I started writing this in March of 2020 when I couldn’t yet imagine how long this pandemic would go on. I stopped writing it in May.
There’s a park behind our house. The play structures are cordoned off, the toddler area is padlocked, the basketball hoops are shuttered, but the field is still open.
There’s a woman who goes to the field now, every day. She sword-fights with her two boys using sticks and metal trash can lids. She didn’t do that before.
Now my kids play together. They are 6 years apart.
Now, I take a mid-day walk. I say “thank you for your service” when I pass a mail carrier or delivery person.
Now, we make bread.
Our weekends are quiet now, and a little bit sad.
Now, we talk about gratitude.
Now, my son can ride a bike.
Now, we do puzzles.
We make more bread.
We fall apart. Come In Bear started it.
Instead of school we burn leaves with a magnifying glass and paint the driveway.
Now a child sick. We know it’s anxiety but call the doctor anyhow.
My heart feels funny.
We’re ok.
Now it is spring.
We fall apart again. It’s not Bear’s fault.
Now I put on a mask and drive to CVS for Easter candy. I think I may have forgotten how to drive, just a little bit.
CVS is stupid, why did I go there so often before?
It’s been a month since we came inside. Now we have a curfew.
I say “thank you for your service” to a mail carrier during my lunchtime walk. He has earbuds in and he can’t see me smile because of my mask, I hope he got the gist of my wave.
Now we sanitize our groceries.
We skip school and make a bow and arrow. Or, we do schoolwork at 9pm.
We sleep so late. Except me, who still has work.
People lament online about having to clean their own homes. I think “hello from the other side” and then feel like a bad person because I know I’m just jealous.
My heart still feels funny.
Now masks are mandatory.
We fall apart on Wednesdays. And Thursdays.
We have half-birthday parties, because why not?
My kids are freckled and sun-kissed, it’s only April.
I prefer a bandit-style mask.
My bread game is excellent.
I am a bread bandit.
I feel like nature is fighting back. As if to prove me right, it snows in May.
On Mother’s Day, I say: “Don’t endanger your lives going out to get me something. You know all I want is for everyone to be nice to me.”
I make gifts for the moms in my life deliver them on foot. I like these gifts better than the store-bought kind.
After 8 weeks my kids are willing to take walks with me. I think they are getting nicer.
Now my kids are expert social-distancers, sometimes militant.
There’s no end in sight.
I can’t wait for hugs. I’m going to hug the hell out of people.
Bruce
I love this dispatch from your world, tiny, lovely details from the journey of these months. I’ve thought of you all often in these dizzying days, and miss sweeter days atop Addington Road. I hope that like your kids, we all come out of this kinder, more empathetic, and militant in our social distancing. If we can find ways to live more aware and move loving with one another, we will have done something.
Nina Max
Bruce, We think of you often too and will always be grateful to you for being a part of this home and our family.
carol sapoznik
Hi Max- Your captured it…simple words and so much emotion. Loved the Come In Bear!
Nina Max
Thanks Carol.
Tarah Clarke
I always love your writing style. So captivating.
Nina Max
Thanks Tarah. We miss you guys!
Marc Fasten
Thx for satlying hello to letter carriers. They’re suffering more then you know.
Nina Max
Thinking of you Marc. Thank YOU for your service!